Prop 8 Upheld

In a disappointing but expected move this morning, the California Supreme Court upheld Proposition 8 while keeping existing marriages valid.

(Remember that the Supreme Court already let their opinion on gay marriage be known. This decision was related to technicalities. Still, I think this decision allows the majority to trample on the rights of the minority.)

Bo, the White House Dog

I feel a little guilty reporting on something so trivial, but anyway, who wants to talk about pirates?

The Obamas' new dog is a purebred Portuguese Water Dog, a gift from Ted Kennedy. But the dog is not a shelter or a rescue dog. It was $2000.

Now, how you turn down a gift from Teddy is beyond me, but I do feel a bit miffed that the First Family did not choose to rescue a dog. I know, I know, first a vegetable garden, then a shelter dog. It seems like we're expecting the family to set examples in their daily lives that past Presidents have not been burdened with. However, I think that is a burden you place upon yourself with a campaign that promises so much change. Oh, and when you say you will get a shelter dog.

And now there are worries that less-than-noble breeders will start churning out Porties to meet a new demand caused by Obama emulators.

Okay, I know I should be worrying about the economy and the wars and all that other stuff, but here is a subject that you know WAY more people care about, and now an opportunity has been missed to teach the public that they do not need purebred dogs. So polite I am, with that passive blame.

I will give the dog a little credit though - he sure is cute!

Pope Says Condoms Contribute to HIV

Have you noticed that when nothing exciting is going on in my life, I report on the news?

Alas, the head of the religion in which I was raised has made another egregious error, declaring that condoms cannot help the HIV problem, and may even aggravate it.

Really? Last I heard, having protected sex was a well known method to help prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases included HIV.

Let's use our well-respected soap box to tell millions of people to just not bother wearing the things. I'm sure they just won't have sex instead.

Way to go, Pope.

Shell Says Bye-Bye to Wind, Solar, and Hydrogen UPDATED

Shell, one of those companies often accused of greenwashing for promoting renewable energy in their advertisements while spending only 1% of their investments on it, just announced it's getting out of the game altogether.

What does this mean?

Renewable energy still costs too much for businesses to make money.

Even in this era of oil uncertainty, Shell finds the future of renewable energy even less secure.

Scary!

I don't know much about finance and investments and that type of thing, but to me it sounds like a lot of government R&D money is needed to help make renewable energy competitive. We can't hedge our future on oil sands and a continued oil economy, for the sake of our health, quality of life, and the environment.

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Note that the second link is from the Breakthrough Institute blog, from the authors of the same-titled book. Check it out.

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I forgot to mention one of the reasons I originally decided to write this post. In my sustainability class yesterday we talked about the various definitions of greenwashing as well as all the backlash against companies like Clorox and Walmart who have ventured into environmentally friendly products. Many of us discussed how we did not necessarily trust Clorox's Green Works to be as ecofriendly as 7th Generation or Ecover, no matter what they claim. However, apparently the Green Works line is taking market share from other Clorox products, so those people who trust Clorox as a valued name in cleaning have used the Green Works line to venture into more earth-friendly products. I'm sure many of these people would never try an "unknown" brand like 7th Gen. Likewise, thousands of Walmart shoppers would probably never buy organic produce or products had Walmart not introduced them.

The teacher's point of that discussion is that maybe we shouldn't be so quick to judge those companies that are incrementally pursuing green products. Maybe we should applaud them for what they are doing and continually demand more.

That said, what about Shell? I certainly liked to make fun of them for their commercials touting green energy when we all know it's Shell Oil. But based on well-reasoned logic like that of my teacher, I should have applauded their 1% investment. And now they've pulled the rug out, making one wonder if they were ever really serious in the first place. This will probably just make environmentalists' more mad at corporations and less willing to work with them. The news these days is depressing.

Eat the View: Achieved

It seems I'm a little late on my lobbying efforts.

Today, Michelle Obama will begin digging up the South Lawn for an extensive vegetable garden. And some lucky grade school kids will get to help out.

Hooray for local, healthy food!

Gay Marriage in South Africa

Turns out South Africa allows gay marriage. Great! Turns out also that men like to rape lesbians to "cure" them.

Because any woman that has been raped wants to have sex with more men right away.

What is wrong with people?

Supreme Court Opening: Gossip or Truth?

Who knows at this point, but Ginsburg is teasing. Will Obama have a chance to add a liberal judge?

Eat the View

Join the movement to grow a vegetable garden on the White House lawn, as an example for the country.


The Garden of Eatin': A Short History of America's Garden from roger doiron on Vimeo.

Visit Eat the View or The Who Farm.

Climate Change: It Just Gets Worse

If you live near the coast (and not on top of a peak like we do), you better think about getting some SLR insurance. I wonder if that exists? Do you think it's included in flood insurance.

Read this.

In Response: My Thoughts on Marriage

Warning: this post ended up very long, so just stop reading when you get bored! Or don't even start.

CNA asked in response to my divorce post what sort of discussion Matt and I had about equality of marriage issues before we took the plunge. Although neither of us really remembers what the discussion was, I started to think about my beliefs and decisions about marriage and how they have changed over time. After re-reading this post, I realized I have strayed far from the equality issue into all sorts of other interconnected marriage-related arenas. I am obviously "not into the whole brevity thing." Here goes...

Matt and I have been married for over two years now, and got engaged over three years ago. Over this time, my perceptions of marriage have evolved continuously. In the beginning, I was really sucked into the whole wanting to be engaged thing, I think, even more so than wanting to be married or thinking about what it meant. I wanted to have a ring on my finger and talk about my fiance. My friends in grad school were planning their weddings too, so discussing our plans together was a fun little event. Matt and I were moving to New Mexico together, and for some silly reason I felt weird telling people that I was moving with my boyfriend.

Plus we were moving to New Mexico, a place that would seriously limit my options for the next several years, and I think I wanted some promise that I would get something out of my sacrifice, i.e. a boyfriend for life. (Incidentally, when Matt had been planning to move to Canada earlier, he didn't want me to come because we hadn't been together very long and he didn't want such a commitment. But since Canada sounded fantastic and exciting to me, I kept pestering him that I would love to go, and if it didn't work out, it didn't, no hard feelings, I would just have fun in Canada. And I meant it. So apparently it is New Mexico's fault that we got married...)

I don't think it was until sometime during our engagement that I actually began to consider what getting married and the institution of marriage meant. First of all, 50% of marriages end in divorce, so it's not like getting married is a guarantee of a boyfriend for life. Second, to me, getting married was somewhat of a chance to throw a fun party while we signed our names to a piece of paper that would allow me to cheaply obtain health and dental insurance for my poor student boyfriend. Third, I really didn't envision getting divorced to be any different from or more difficult than breaking up with a live-in boyfriend. Sure there are legal hassles with divorce, but to me the emotional and material difficulties of breaking up were sure to be equally bad either way.

In sum, I don't think Matt and I ever took marriage as seriously as many people do. (Maybe I shouldn't speak for him...) Yes, we were professing our love for each other, and that was awesome, but nothing was going to change in our lives, realistically, other than being granted the rights that come with marriage including employee benefits, visitation rights, and life and death decisions. Things that are very useful in a household when two people want to share their lives with each other. And all we had to do to get those rights was to sign a little piece of paper.

I really can't remember how much of a discussion we had about how it was unfair for us to get married when others can't, particularly same-sex couples. I know we thought about it, and decided that the benefits outweighed the negatives. And we had a gay man marry us through the miraculous power invested in him by an internet certificate. Two days after the ceremony, I wrote this in a blog post:

Well, this past weekend was the big event! Matt and I made our commitment legal and are now able to obtain certain benefits that are unavailable to many others. Part of me felt like participating in this institution was morally wrong until it is open to everybody, no matter who they want to marry. However, I also wanted to marry Matt! So since I went ahead and did it, I pledge to advocate for equal rights and vote for politicians who do as well.

I also had many other concerns about the institution of marriage, based on their patriarchal and anti-feminist origins, as I also discussed in my old blog. I actually think those issues are less of a big deal to me, because you can change things to make the ceremony have meaning for yourself. In fact, I judiciously avoid referring to our "wedding" because I can't stand that term. I was not wedded to someone else. However, no matter what you do, the concept of marriage itself cannot be extricated from its origins, and for this reason I totally understand and sympathize with those who decide not to marry themselves.

In fact, I must confess that when CNA informed me that she and her boyfriend were having a baby together without being married, I felt rather terrible about myself for awhile. I started wondering why I hadn't been strong enough and liberal enough to shun the institution; that I had been too desperate for some sort of commitment. Then I remembered she was having a baby, and actually, I think, has made a much bigger commitment than I have (no pressure :) !) Anyway, I digress. I think there are all sorts of ways that people can make commitments together and share their lives together without being married (or without having a baby). You could even throw a big party without actually getting married! However, marriage does confer some rights and provide some conveniences often not otherwise available.

I also think that Matt and I see our marriage very differently than other people might see their own. My mom used to chide me for leaving Matt all the time, on vacations to various places and a summer in LA. To her, our marriage apparently meant that I should be by Matt's side at all times, no matter what other things I want to do with my life. And I don't think she would have thought that if we were still just living together. But that is not what we think. Matt completely understands my needs for freedom (although sometimes he follows me across the country).

And I can imagine that many women, if their husbands suggested getting a divorce, whether or not in jest, would not have taken it in stride as I did. Some people think marriage is nothing to joke about. I think Matt has a good point. Although we previously decided to get married even though same-sex couples can't, we have now been living in San Francisco, hanging out in the Castro, and watching Proposition 8 pass. Marriage equality seemed to be so close, but it slipped away by a few percentage points.

In California, we have something called a domestic partnership (different from when your employer gives you benefits for your domestic partner based on tax returns showing you live together, etc.), where couples are granted, as far as I understand it, the same rights granted to married couples. However, as argued this morning, this difference in nomenclature basically relegates same-sex couples to second class status. I actually looked into domestic partnerships today, thinking that maybe I would actually consider getting divorced if we could retain our rights through another measure, but it turns out the domestic partnerships are only for same-sex couples or opposite-sex couples in which one member is over the age of 62. Or some crap like that. So heterosexual couples are actually prevented from showing solidarity by choosing a domestic partnership instead of marriage. (I recently read an article about how a new institution for same-sex marriage in France is actually being used by record numbers of heterosexual couples who are choosing it over traditional marriage. I will look for the link.)

So, I think at this point, unless Matt convinces me somehow, that getting divorced in solidarity is not really a good choice. What difference would it really make? Sure, we'd be making a statement, but who would really know about it? Our friends, most of whom are liberal? Our conservative family members who would just write us off as cuckoos? Instead, I can, and do, support the fight to overturn Prop 8.

I also read a book, called The Offbeat Bride, in which the author discusses in length her and her husband's decision to get married despite the lack of equality. They made this decision despite the fact that some of their gay friends questioned or resented them for doing so. And I'm sure many people choose not to be married for these very reasons. All valid points.

In the end, I am not trying to judge anyone here, either for thinking more highly of marriage than I do, or more poorly of it. Although when I got married my motivations were different and more immature, now I view marriage mostly as a granting of rights that are important to me and will become even more so the older we get. I think maybe in some states there are other ways to obtain these rights, but it is so much more complicated than signing a piece of paper. (Convenience is such a good excuse, isn't it?) We have made decisions to partake of the institution while trying to minimize the negatives. Had I been more mature at the time, maybe we would not have made that decision. I love my husband, and he loves me, but as I was sitting on the couch while he suggested getting divorced, I imagined our lives being absolutely no different than they are now. Although I did ask him if I would still have health insurance.

I think getting married or not is a complicated decision in this day and age, and everybody should make their choice meaningful for them. I think that ultimately marriage should be relegated to the religious arena from whence it came, and the government should go about providing equal rights to everyone in some other manner. I'm not sure how. Maybe consenting adults just sign a piece of paper that grants them the rights currently granted in marriage.

(In fact, Matt thinks that marriage should not even necessarily be limited to two people, although that opens a whole other can of worms in terms of rights and decision-making ability - your multiple spouses could fight over whether to pull your life support tube. I also think in this day and age there is still a huge risk for involuntary servitude and physical and sexual abuse of women within what amounts to polygamy. Maybe it works for some people, but proper caution must be exercised.)

So that's the end of my long-winded marriage blog. And again, that is just what I have come to terms with myself, and I completely value everybody else's opinions on the subject. In fact, I'd love to hear them! Let's have a discussion. And I'll let ya'll know if we get divorced.

Star-studded Prop 8 Video. Check it out!

"Prop 8 - The Musical" starring Jack Black, John C. Reilly, and many more... from Jack Black

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Also see timeline of this morning's oral arguments at That is So Queer.

Today Matt Told Me That Maybe We Should Get Divorced

So much to blog about this morning! So little time!

Today, the California Supreme Court is hearing oral arguments in the same-sex marriage cases. As far as I understand it, the central issue is whether voters actually had the authority to take this right away from people (ban same-sex marriage). Generally, the courts are the ones that make decisions on constitutional issues (equal civil rights, etc.). And I think if we put a number of constitutional rights to a vote, many of them would be taken away, not just gay marriage. This case will also determine what happens to the marriages of 18,000 couples that took place in the few month span that it was legal in 2008.

People were marching last night, camping in front of the civic center, holding rallies in front of the court house. They even set up a jumbotron outside of the court house for large groups to watch.

A local news station will be livestreaming the oral arguments from 9 am to noon Pacific time, if anyone is interested. I will obviously not get anything done today again.

Oh yeah, Matt said that if the supreme court supports the voter-approved ban on gay marriage, maybe we should get divorced in support. I reminded him that we had considered that issue before we actually did get married, but he appeared not to remember. So maybe tonight he'll be serving me with papers. Oh well. It was fun while it lasted!

Koala Love

A small dose of cuteness out of the terrible Australian wildfires.

Also, I have been hearing about this topic a lot recently: Is Australia the canary in the coal mine for climate change?

The Green New Future

Today Obama signed an executive order reversing Bush's Mexico City policy. In other words, international family planning clinics that discuss or provide abortions can now receive U.S. money (unlike when Bush was in office).

Ya'll, the world has too many people in it. Props to Obama for supporting family planning.

(Regardless of whether you feel abortion is acceptable or not, isn't it important to allow people access to all the proper information and not prevent good organizations from receiving much-needed money because they differ on one point of family planning?)

Bad News in the Bay

So far the New Year hasn't been kind. Early New Year's morning, BART police shot and killed a young black man in what videos seem to show was an uwarranted homicide. The police have yet to release any details about exactly what happened. Last night, what started as a peaceful protest aagainst the act and racial injustice led to an angry mob that smashed cars and storefronts throughout downtown Oakland. Even the Mayor's personal address could not appease them.

[Update: and another questionable shooting of a young non-white man by police.]

In other bad news, someone drew swastikas and angry messages about the Catholic church's support of Prop 8 on the pro-gay Catholic Church in the Castro where I went to Christmas Mass with my mom. Yes, the Catholic Church in general stuck their nose places they should not have in the Prop 8 campaign, but it is still the right of gay people who otherwise believe in the faith to practice their religion, especially at such a liberal church. The Christmas Eve celebration was fantastic. The pews were packed by a large majority of men -many with their arms around each other, some women, and a very few kids. Everybody sang together, and everybody seemed to know each other. Trust me, this is not typical in the Catholic church. It seemed to be a wonderful community, and they did not deserve that graffiti. Yes, Prop 8 sucks, but let's not spread blame to places it doesn't belong.